The Science of Connection

When we begin to create more coherence in our hearts, we automatically connect, on a deeper level, and the entire world will become more coherent.

As I observe, the woman seated at the centre of the circle shows a subtle shift—the tension in her shoulders visibly dissipates and tears start rolling down her face. This is so beautiful to watch, that it makes me feel humble and emotional to even witness this. If one has no concept of what just happened here, one might think that a spiritual transformation, or even a miraculous healing has just taken place (both of which could indeed be true). But I was very aware of the causation of her internal shift as I helped facilitate this opportunity for her.

During one of my 2018 visits to Bogotá, Colombia, I hosted several retreats. One of the experiences that I chose to introduce, was to take the HeartMath® tools and techniques to a higher level, so that the participants were fully able to implement what they had learned in the days before, into their daily lives.

At the end of the morning I had asked the participants if they could now fully feel and deeply connect with their own body. Everybody responded positively and raised their hands, except for three people… These individuals shared that they wished they could connect with themselves on a deeper level, but they had a really difficult time accessing this space. This is when my ego kicked in, because it was my intention to have all of the participants experience what it feels like to connect deeply with oneself, and I just knew it was possible.

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Before I realized, I proposed the entire group to break up into three sub-groups and form three circles. The three people who indicated they couldn’t get in touch with their feelings, were each sitting in the middle of a circle. I then asked all the people in the circle, to become heart-coherent and visualize radiating care and compassion towards the person in the centre of the circle. The person in the centre was asked to breathe deeper, relax and not do anything in particular.

Within a few minutes I observed spontaneous and beautiful changes in the three individuals happen. This relatively simple exercise surpassed my expectations by far. This practice looked so simple, yet it was so incredibly impactful. True transformation literally happens when we intentionally connect our hearts with those around us. This was also the moment I decided to found my global Coherence Hotspot organization.

The science of connection

But what do these experiments really tell us? Is there empirical evidence behind the connection between humans?

I'm very aware that in our society, particularly among men, the realm of emotions often feels like uncharted territory. By "feeling," I refer to the act of genuinely acknowledging and understanding the subtleties of one's life and bodily sensations. This experience is often foreign for many in our culture, and certainly not limited to the experiences in my groups.

The unfortunate reality is that those who taught us that connecting with our emotions is a sign of weakness are often challenged by their own deep-seated pain. These patterns of behaviour are commonly inherited and perpetuated from one generation to the next, echoing across cultures and continents worldwide.

But we can do better than to keep living in the programs of the past. We live now, and when we choose to be fully present, we can create an opportunity for ourselves to make changes. Are you ready for the cool science that supports all this?

The geomagnetic field around the earth that protects us from harmful space radiation connects us all. What?? Yes!! The electromagnetic field generated by our own hearts is an integral part of the global field. This therefore means that we as ‘individuals’ are all deeply connected through that same field. Even though this is nothing new for me, just by writing about it gives me goosebumps, because it so profound. Why? Because we live in a society which structure is fully based on separation. So we are merely living a lie.

The three people in the centre of the circles however weren’t living a lie. They couldn’t escape the reality anymore, because those around them had created a highly coherent electromagnetic field for them, and the law of physics applied to them of course. When we create coherence (more order) in the signal generated by our hearts, we begin to create more coherence in the global field. Through this highly orderly field, we have the capacity to connect and feel the truth of life.

In my view, recognizing and embracing the principles of physics represents the highest form of intelligence. Throughout history, it's clear that a lack of coherence within society often results in harm to others, creating division, using violence, or imposing narrow-minded political agendas. Such shortsighted approaches hinder our collective evolution as a species rather than propelling us forward.

When we begin to create more coherence in our hearts, we automatically connect with one another on a deeper level and the entire planet will become more coherent. All fully backed by empirical science! What are you waiting for! Should we organize a retreat in your community?

Dirk